I said, "35 mph".
"I'm only doing thirty," he chuckled.
We fell in stride together and started conversing as we walked along. We were both on our way to the hamlet of Ringinglow. And when we reached the place, we both had a notion to go into "The Norfolk Arms" for liquid refreshment. He ordered a pint of bitter while I asked for a pint of orange cordial and soda water with a packet of salt and vinegar crisps (American; chips).
We sat at a spare table together, talking for a further forty minutes.
He was a complete stranger to me as I was to him but we soon learnt a lot about each other and discovered several things we had in common. He said his name was Michael and I told him my name was Neil. Furthermore, jokingly, I informed him that I was heartily sick of meeting men called Michael.
"They are all over the place. My two quizmates are called Michael and so is my oldest nephew. Why couldn't the parents give them different names like Linus or Archibald? But not bloody Michael!"
Michael laughed. He knew that I was kidding.
We talked about his late wife. Eight years ago, they had been on a walking holiday in north west Scotland and both of them came back with summer colds. Michael's cold quickly cleared up but his wife's cold remained troublesome.
She visited her doctor and was then admitted to hospital. One thing led to another and she finished up on intensive care with a life-threatening respiratory complaint. But sadly, though she was in good hands, there was to be no happy ending. She died and Michael was left on his own.
But eight years on the fellow was chipper, upbeat and sharp. I very much regret not exchanging contact details. We share a kind of philosophy when it comes to walking and I know that it is a philosophy that keen walker Meike Riley in Germany would also subscribe to.
Walking is not just about putting one foot in front of the other. It's about absorbing the natural world around you and letting your thoughts wander where they will. It's not just about physical well-being it's about mental well-being too - working things out, problem-solving, remembering, thinking creatively as you plod the miles.
Before we shook hands and went our separate ways, Michael told me that he will be ninety next year.
He walks every day come rain or shine but still misses his beloved wife. His sixty four year old daughter Sarah and her Liverpudlian husband Kevin have just retired to a big house in North Wales and they want Michael to go over there to live with them. He has told them that he will think about it but first he wants a month's trial.
He said, "I need to check out paths and walking routes over there before I say yes."
I told him that the trial month was a very good idea.
How lovely it was to meet that man. I could have talked with him for hours but the truth is that I will probably never see him again. We were like ships that pass in the night even though our time together was in the middle of the day.
Is it an intentional design, every good person we meet ? Is chance design too ?
ReplyDeleteNope. There's no "design", no masterplan. It's all the randomness of being.
DeleteJB Priestley your fellow Yorkshireman begged to differ.
DeleteAnd he was buried alive in the trenches in the First World War.
You walk at 35mph? How can you "absorb the natural world around you" at that speed? I would think that speed daily would have you as lean as a greyhound.
ReplyDeleteI was lying Elsie. I walk at 4mph.
DeleteI do 3.5 on my treadmill, but only half an hour each time and have to hold the support bar.
DeleteThose chance interactions are the essence of what makes us human. Exchange of words and stories before moving on gives us something beautiful and indescribable. Sadly it's something I fear could be lost, human interaction is being replaced in so many places.
ReplyDeleteAnd so often the "chance interaction" is hindered by the presence of those dumb smartphones.
DeleteWhat a lovely chance meeting and such a shame you didnt exchange contact details.
ReplyDeleteThat's blokes for you!
DeleteI have met several people, now good friends, when on a dog walk!
ReplyDeleteIs it time for a quiz? Not had one for weeks! Please.
Okay Frances. I will try to remember to churn a new quiz out this week.
DeleteYou could walk the same path again and you might come across him. And then what happens???
ReplyDeleteThen we dance like no one is watching.
DeleteMichael sounds like a great guy. He obviously "gets" walking the way you and I do, plus he keeps going (literally) even at 90 years of age and after the loss of his beloved wife. What an example to us all!
ReplyDeleteThe trial month with his daughter and son-in-law is a very sensible approach.
You must go on living or the alternative comes for you.
ReplyDeleteHuman contact makes a difference in our lives.
ReplyDeleteOh, I do love it when a connection is made between two strangers. Sounds like you made a good one here.
ReplyDeleteHow nice that you had a good walk and visit with Michael.
ReplyDeleteWhat a lovely chance meeting. He's 89 and still going strong, I should be so lucky:)
ReplyDeleteSometimes it's nice to just cross paths with someone and spend some time, with no expectation of following up. There's a serendipity to it.
ReplyDeletePretty scary when a summer cold turns into a life-threatening respiratory complaint!
Michael was a popular name once. Strangely, in my little village the popular name for men is Martin. I know of seven in a village with a population under 200
ReplyDeleteWell, at least you had a great walk and chat on your only meeting!
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