2 December 2025

Headstone


Dear Jo,

At long last, I went up to Ecclesall churchyard this morning with the intention of sprucing up your Uncle Ken and Auntie Doris's gravestone. It was a bright, dry day and not too chilly for December 2nd.

I guess that a couple of years have passed by since I last went up to see it and I was pretty shocked with what I saw. What had once been a clear, creamy white headstone was now blackened with fungal growth. I could hardly read the inscription.

In my bag, I had brushes, cloths, kitchen cleaner and two milk containers filled with warm soapy water. I got on with the job but it soon became clear that a lot of the fungal growth would not budge.

There was certainly significant improvement but I was not satisfied.

Back home, I checked out a couple of YouTube videos about cleaning gravestones and realised that I would need some kind of special stone cleaning fluid or spray to complete the job to the best of my ability.

Research led me to the discovery that I could only buy the necessary spray off the shelf at Williamsons in Broomhill. I phoned them to confirm this and I will be heading up to Broomhill on the Number 6 bus tomorrow morning as it is so hard to park a car at Broomhill these days.

By the way, in a strange co-incidence, just as I was about to set off to the graveyard this morning, the postman brought me your Christmas card - all the way from New Zealand! Thank you so much!

I hope that you and Keith are in good health just now and no doubt looking forward to yet another Christmas - perhaps with your family. Please see the two attached "before" and "after" photos but I hope that the next picture I send you will evidence an even bigger transformation.

Ken and Doris were such a sweet old couple and I was privileged to be able to help them as they reached the ends of their lives. As I scrubbed at their headstone this morning, I swear I could hear them singing folk songs beneath the turf.
Kind regards,
Neil

18 comments:

  1. You put a lot of elbow grease into cleaning it! I hope the special stone cleaning spray will work even better.

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  2. True story? Perhaps you couldpaint or spray on some kind of protective coating so the stone doesn't balcken again?

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  3. Friendship extends beyond all borders, doesn't it.

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  4. I'm impressed. I have never even visted my own grandparents graves, let alone clean the grave of a neighbour? friend?
    Headstone maintenance is a good reason for cremation

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  5. What a kind thing to do. I had a similar job 2 years ago when i visited Berlin and found my great grandparents' graves, but all I had was wet wipes to clean 9 decades of moss and lichen!

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  6. Mr pudding. You are indeed a very fine human being. Xx

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  7. What can I say but, nice.

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  8. What a lovely thing to do. I've watched those gravestone cleaners online and amazed at the results so hopefully you'll have similar success.

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  9. It's good to have final resting place to visit. There are professional headstone cleaners and restorers. I keep a photo of Jean's grave on my phone.

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  10. That does indeed look like a tough job. I regularly (in summer) clean the front of a headstone on a grave belonging to great grandparents in the cemetery close to where I live, but no fungus involved and I have only used soapy water and a brush

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  11. Wow, a lot of elbow grease went into cleaning the headstone. That was a very thoughtful thing to do, and this was a wonderful post to read.

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  12. Thank you for sharing this, thank you for helping.

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  13. You are a very good man, Mr. Pudding.

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  14. I wonder why that stone in particular seems to be supporting the fungal growth, and other stones in the background seem to be clean. Perhaps the others have already been cleaned?

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  15. You have got a good start at cleaning it and hope the solution you buy will get the job done. I won't have a tombstone for anyone to worry about.

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  16. This is lovely. It reminds me of so many countries where ancestors are celebrated and headstones are kept up. Well done.

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  17. Changing the subject
    I think you should repeat this post

    https://beefgravy.blogspot.com/2017/12/awards.html

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