22 March 2021

Whisperer

It took nine days to get the heating sorted out at Frances and Stewart's rental property. A new boiler was eventually fitted with all of the associated work. In the meantime, Frances and Phoebe stayed with us but Stewart went home each weekday night around nine thirty because the rental house is en route to his workplace and he drives away before seven each morning.

It was lovely having our granddaughter here with her mother and I think it was good for Frances too - a kind of holiday with a grandparent or two always around to take the pressure off. How delightful it was to see Phoebe each morning - bright as a button, kicking her legs and chortling away.

After more than thirty years, I had forgotten some of the fine details connected with looking after a little baby but Phoebe's presence has reminded me of how it was. Shirley went back to work when Ian was nine weeks old and I would rush home to look after him as Shirley departed for her evening shifts at the Royal Hallamshire Hospital. We must have had much more energy back then.

Frances referred to me as "the baby whisperer" because it seems that whenever Phoebe is crying I can always quieten her simply by holding her in my arms and singing to her. Often she falls asleep like that. I remember doing that with both of our children. What can be better than being cradled safely  in the arms of a big, warm man who can, though I say it myself,  sing quite beautifully and always in tune?

This is a lazy kind of blogpost. I didn't have much else to write about today so I thought I would just share three more pictures of our precious little girl and chuck in a bunch of words to accompany them. I hope you don't mind.

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  1. Baby Whisperer. Now that is a great epithet.

    I have a back issue of The New Yorker with an essay by an American pediatrician.
    He was very interested to know why babies cry and how they can be comforted.
    The article stated that surprisingly little research had been done into the causes of (and cure for) cholic: the funding was just never there.

    Many years ago there was a cruel and silly theory that it was wrong to pick up a baby too much; wrong to cuddle the baby too much; just let her cry in her cot.
    Now we know a baby can't be held too much or loved too much.
    It was well known in the East that the mother can stop her baby from crying by giving her baby a massage.
    Google has a good menu of articles on Cholic Acid in Babies.
    Your wife being a nurse knows all about it.
    Haggerty

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    1. Thank you Dr Haggerty of the Glasgow Infant Research Bureau sponsored by Irn Bru. In my mind there is always a reason why a baby cries and sometimes a song can cause a happy distraction from that cause.

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    2. Songs for Phoebe: What a sweet thought.
      Julie Felix sang for children: I was in love with her as a boy when she sang that old ballad, Last Thing On My Mind. Julie passed away last year. R.I.P.
      Haggerty

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    3. Were you going away with no word of farewell? I did not know that Julie Felix had died. May she rest in peace for all the joy she brought.

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  2. Grandparents have so many advantages in babay whispering: they recognise tired signs earlier, are probably less tired, less fraught and more confident (though that may be another way to say less fraught)
    I'm glad you were able to help out, it will make a huge difference to their confidence and stamina over the next months

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    1. COVID has meant that so many new parents have had to do their job without the customary support. At least in our "support bubble" we can demonstrate some inherent techniques.

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  3. Anonymous3:12 am

    With her name emblazoned across her chest for the use of forgetful grandfathers. I wish our twin great nieces would wear name tags.

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    1. Couldn't you ask for forehead tattoos?

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  4. Mind???? MIND???? Good gravy, YP (See what I did there?) I hope that you frequently run out of things to post about.

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    1. I could post about emboldening words as you did but I do not know how!

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    2. Brackets, dear YP. Put an i between one of these < and one of these > followed by the letter b between another set of brackets. At the end of the word or phrase you want to stress, you'd put a /i and a /b in two more sets of brackets and finish your comment normally.

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    3. You lost me at "Brackets". Why can't these things be easy? But I will try Debby. Thanks.

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    4. Brackets are those arrowy things that you find beneath the k and the l keys. See them? Those are the brackets I am referring to. I have every confidence in you YP.

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    5. I thought brackets were for fixing shelves to walls.

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    6. Abandon hope all ye who enter here....

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  5. Things seem to come back very quickly when it comes to new little people.

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  6. No we don't mind. Adoration of Phoebe will be part of your life forever;) And today has a glorious sunny start.

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    1. I overslept in my pit and now as 10am closes in I am basking in sunshine in our living room on the Costa del South Yorkshire.

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  7. If this is a lazy blogpost then I'd like to see more. She is beautiful.
    Briony
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    1. It was the photo of you in your last blogpost that inspired me to post Phoebe's pictures...baby!

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  8. Mind? You can throw as many Phoebe photos as you like at me. She is lovely.

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    1. I love her even when she possets on my clean shirt.

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  9. No, we certainly don't mind photos of such a gorgeous girl! How alert she is, and it's obvious that she adores her Grandpa!

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    1. Her Grandpa has always been adored by young lasses CG.

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  10. Of course we don't mind! Phoebe is beautiful. She must bring you so much joy!

    I'm finally going to get to spend a little time with baby Carsen next week after over a year. Of course she's not a baby anymore, she'll be 3 soon. I've missed that little girl! (Her mother, too, of course). By next week her parents will be fully vaccinated and of course we already are. I can't wait!

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    1. Will you be taking Carsen Minecraft Lego?

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  11. Don't mind at all. She is adorable.

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    1. Does it bring back memories of your baby girls Sue?

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  12. The big guy did/does the same with our grandson, singing and rocking. She is a beautiful little baby and alert. She's a lucky girl.

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    1. I hope she has a good life. I won't be around to witness much of it.

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    2. You have no idea. You might live to be 100!

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    3. If I see Phoebe reach 18 I will have been extraordinarily lucky.

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  13. Nothing wrong with being a proud Grandpa!

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    1. Vey kind ma'am. One day I will visit your blog. Be warned!

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  14. Phoebe has brought new life into your lives in more ways than one. How can you not share the joy or the photos? She's a charmer.

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    1. She has certainly brightened up our pandemic Mary!

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  15. She is growing so fast! And is so very beautiful. Posts like these are absolutely wonderful.

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    1. Thanks for your assessment. We think so too.

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  16. Have you considered one of those baby-carrier back frames? You could then combine baby with walking, and even sing at the same time "I like to go a-wandering ... valderee, valderah ..."

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    1. They are for dads - not for wizened old grandpas.

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  17. Not a lazy post at all. In fact this is just the kind of post I like -- conversational and full of the simple pleasures of the day. :)

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    1. I am not really very good at that but your blog is teaching me!

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  18. An absolutely enjoyable post. Thanks bright spot in my day.

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    1. That is so kind of you to say that Barbara.

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  19. Loving your Phoebe posts as they're such good pointers to how much richer our lives will be when our little bundle of joy arrives next month. Phoebe seems to be bounding ahead in her development and is clearly thriving in your shared bubble of energy and experience.
    Adele

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    1. If you need any tips on being a grandparent, my fees are quite reasonable Adele.

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  20. Such a heartwarming post, such a sweet baby. How could anyone mind? I think you are all very lucky - the parents having some extra help at a tiring time, baby having extra love and attention, grandparents having unexpected extra time with both baby and her parents. I envy you.

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    1. Clearly you understand the situation clearly Jenny. Thank you.

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  21. Always a pleasure to hear about/see Phoebe, it almost makes my arms ache to hold another grandchild but I think I've had my lot from our two sons and their wives! Our grandson and his grandpa have always had a great relationship right from the first day, I have many great photos of them staring into each other's eyes like they've always known each other, wonderful!

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  22. oh heartfelt THANKS for sharing these treasured images !!!
    loved looking at younger version of your precious little girl
    your words are overflown with love for your children and that is enough to make happy a heart of a mom who also loves her children sooo much :)
    may bright days ahead to both of them amen!

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